How You Carry Yourself

I read an article on CNN.com the other day about just how different men's brains are from women's. They sincerely function differently than we do. One of the things men are programmed to do is to notice "fertile" looking women. I think, in modern society, the whole "fertile" thing is simply expressed as "hot" or "sexy." Anyways, here is the root of the classic "my eyes are up here" problem that large-breasted women often have. Well, it's sort-of a problem; smaller breasted women may look at those larger-breasted women with envy. I mean, we all want to be noticed and seen as sexy, right? Please note that I'm not saying that I want someone staring at my chest instead of listening to what I have to say. I'm just saying that I wouldn't mind getting noticed every once in a while.

Well, it is my opinion that those small-breasted women who envy those large-breasted women aren't being noticed because they ooze their own lack-of-confidence! If you feel bad about yourself, it shows. If you are confident and carry yourself as such, people notice. If you hold your head up and walk with the swagger you've always wished you could walk with, you are going to be one of those females that seem "fertile." And by that I mean that men will notice you because they are programmed to notice women who would be good "mates."

I don't mean to imply that I'm always able to accomplish this. It's really difficult when the media is bombarding you with images of women with big, fake boobs. I am often that girl who is not carrying herself with confidence. I hunch over and look down. But on those good days, when I'm feeling good and I maybe decide to wear one of my favorite outfits, I keep my head up and my eyes straight-ahead, and I know people notice. Despite my small breasts. Because of my small breasts. With my small breasts. Whatever it might be.

Here's a link to the article on CNN I read: http://www.cnn.com/2010/OPINION/03/23/brizendine.male.brain/index.html?iref=allsearch.

Mixed Messages

You know what drives me crazy? The fact that women are somehow expected to at once be skinny AND have big boobs. Um, excuse me? Boobs are mostly what? Oh yeah, FAT. What kind of mixed message is this? When you lose weight, you often lose some of it on top. When you gain weight, your boobs often get a little bigger. It's just the way it is. It's silly for women to expect to be able to (naturally) be slim and have large breasts. I think you have to have some kind of super-lucky genes to happen to be built that way.

I have recently lost 17 lbs (was 146 lbs in mid-October, am 129 lbs today!)... and, yep, my favorite bra is starting to fit badly. But, I would rather be slim, lean, fit, etc. and have small boobs. Seriously. Eating poorly and not exercising is not a good way to "enhance" your breasts. It's not like you'll look any better that way!

I'm just trying to convince people that the media is often full of crap, and that breasts of all sizes are beautiful and sexy. Don't let pictures of Victoria's Secret models make you feel inadequate in any way. Don't let your boobs be the reason you're afraid to get out there and get healthy. Don't feel bad about what you have!

What to wear???

Ok, I'm not much of a fashion person, but hey, I like to look good sometimes (who doesn't?). I have found it to be very difficult to find things that fit/look good on top. It's quite frustrating to try on things that literally HANG off of me, again and again. But, on occasion, I find that one PERFECT top or PERFECT dress (and I have to buy it... hey, how often do these finds occur?). I was doing some research for writing this blog today, and I kept finding sites addressing how to make your boobs look bigger with clothes. But, what I had wanted to find was what kind of clothes flatter small breasted women. There's a difference... why should I have to make my boobs look bigger than they are? I just want to show that they can look good and be a part of my overall figure (in a good way). SO, here are clothing-types that I have found to flatter my own figure. Again, I'm no expert on fashion, but I certainly do know what I like and why.

Scoop Necks:
-Many people think that small breasted women should not wear tops that have lower necklines (because they say it will only draw attention to what you DON'T have). I say that's total crap. I love to wear scoop neck shirts that come down low enough to just show a little of the perk. And yes, that's what small breasted women have that big breasted women often don't have. Why not show that off? Maybe a plunging neckline will simply show lack of cleavage, but you have to admit that high, firm breasts are something to show off on occasion.

Backless Shirts and Dresses:
-I also love backless shirts and dresses. The reason we small-topped ladies can wear these where others can't is that we don't wear a bra with them. I have this awesome red shirt that looks like a regular women's t-shirt in the front, but just has criss-crossing on the back. I love it. It surprises people, I always get compliments when I wear it, and I catch guys checking me out when I have it on. Backs are sexy too, people. It's all skin. And, I'm not gonna lie, I love to free-boob it on occasion. And I can, so why not? I think a lack of a bra will make a guy look just as often as big boobs in a bra will.

Sleeveless Shirts and Dresses:
-Women who have small breasts often have smaller frames and therefore lean arms. Sleeveless shirts and dresses look great on women with smaller frames. It's also another way to show some skin if you're not feeling confident showing off the ladies.
-Tank tops and dresses that have a little cinching around the bust also flatter small breasts.
-I've also heard that patterned tanks flatter small-breasted women, but the truth is, I prefer solids.

This represents my own opinion based on my own experiences. I'd love to read comments from people who have other opinions about what looks good!